wives, or women submitting to God through submission and respect for their husbands gets our flesh in a tizzy~Yet If we are stoking the fire of the Holy Spirit in our lives, we will want to know Christ who is the purest model of submission better through obedience at ALL COSTS. I want to know Him and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in His sufferings, that I may obtain the resurrection of the dead.
The dog in the movie "Up" is such a great example of submission.
I just feel the need to say that when a women or a man is striving to please God in every way possible- women through submission to their authorties and men through submission to their authority (Christ and their brothers in Christ ) and either doesn't feel heard in their relationship with their spouse , it's not an excuse to throw the command of God out the window. Men are still called to love their wives as Christ loved the church and women are still called to respect their husband and submit to them. When your spouse is making no effort to do their part, You will either cling to submission in the women's case or loving your wife as Christ loved the church in the man's case, (which is submission or obedience to God as well) ,for all its worth, or you may give up entirely. The word says :Let God be true and every man a liar. The answer is not to lower the standard, but to do your best as an individual to hold the banner high through obedience.
Obedience to God is our only hope for things to ever change. I am one of those women who actually believes that every word of God is pure to the conversion of the soul... and that if we grow not weary in well doing in due time we will reap a harvest if we do not faint.(Galatians) But instead of looking for the harvest in my husbands life I want to be a friend of Jesus and reap a harvest in my own life! Incidentally my husband will reap a harvest as well this way because the two become one in marriage.....What I do WILL ultimately affect him. It most likely will take time for the affects to be really seen, but if you planted a seed of truth it will reap a harvest of truth.. Am I saying that my husband will get saved? There's a good chance he will! But I don't know that for sure. What I do say is that Gods word does NOT return void and if we live our lives based on the truth , the truth will affect our life , our spouse's life and the life of others looking on. Not only that but the secrets of the Lord belong to us who are obedient.
John 15:14-15 You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.
When I first began walk with God and ultimately to submit to my unsaved husband I thought of Jesus as my Master (and still do!), but Oh! To think that I am called a friend of God because Jesus has made to known to me everything He has learned from His Father. Jesus has made known to me His plan for me (submission- substituting His mission for my own selfish one) and Jesus Himself learned obedience by the things that he suffered! Talk about a humbling thought. We will not learn obedience to God if we are not willing to suffer. So if your feelings are hurt by a husband that you feel is uncaring and unloving, TRUST God. We are not just a picture of Christ and the church when both the husband and wife are walking in obedience, we are a picture of Christ and the church (his bride) when things are imperfect, but we cling to His word as truth and our only hope for recovery from the state of depravity we were in prior to Christ saving us. . And even if it's only one of us clinging to that truth! I don't believe for a minute that there is any such thing as a perfect marriage where BOTH husband and wife walk perfectly the way that God would have them to. Christ and His bride (the church) illustrate that. And in that case WE the bride are the ones who walk imperfectly. We are in process of coming into the likeness of Christ, If Christ joined Himself with an imperfect flawed human being like you and I, why do we think that a marriage where things are off balance is not a proper representation of Christ and the church! ? I daresay, It more CLEARLY represents Christ and the church! We walk by faith and NOT by sight! When one person is determining to obey God even it they seem despised by their spouse , it represents Christ and His bride more perfectly than we think! I'm NOT saying that as time goes on we shouldn't (as Christians in marriage), become a more radiantly beautiful partner (spiritually speaking) , in that marriage, but what I'm saying is that all it takes is ONE person willing to be obedient at all costs, for Christ and His bride to be represented properly. Two walking in the Spirit is wonderful , but don't underestimate the impact you can have EVEN if you are the only one in the marriage really working at change. In the case of Christ and his bride that one person was Christ. It is a lie from the pit of hell that if both people are not walking in the Spirit , that marriage cannot properly represent Christ and the church. So TAKE heart! All you women who are in unequally yoked marriages or even those in marriages where you feel your spouse is not making the effort that you are. Christ Himself who is without fault or blemish (which none of us can claim) took us to be His bride as desperately wicked human beings, knowing that His love is a refining fire and that it is stronger than death! The heart is desperately wicked who can know it? While we were yet sinners Christ died for us. Love is stronger than death.
As I began to submit my husband, I came up againt fierce opposition in many dfferent forms,but I was ultimately wrestling satan . He didn't want me to submit because he knew it would be the thing that would unleash the power of God in my life. But the gates of hell came against me as well. However they did not prevail against me . Gods love has won out. I have been submitting to my husband for 15 years and I have the promise of God that in due time I will reap a harvest. In the meantime I am harvesting the fruit of the vine (Jesus Christ ) in my own life. I love my husband more than ever (pure love) I have peace, I have joy, I have patience and longsuffering, have a gentleness I never used to have, and I have self control. They are all in my life compliments of Jesus the vine and His Father the vinedresser who prunes as He sees fit. My husband still doesn't seem to care about my feelings (sometimes) when I tell him my views, but OH! The joy of the Lord is my strength And when I seem obsessed about submission I am really just obsessed with the one who modeled submission to the Father . The one who is submission..... the one who is the way, the truth, and the life. The one who set His face like flint towards Jerusalem,the one who is the author and finisher of our faith who or the joy that was set before Him endured the cross , despising the shame and has sat down at the right hand of the Father, the one through whom we MUST come to the Father, if we are to come at all !